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[USA]: Bisexual in Indiana?
A new group has been formed for All Bisexual People from Indiana. So All Hoosiers please click the link and join up.
“The bisexual community in general has long been willing to remain invisible, and while this may make an individual life easier, it does nothing to help young bisexuals who are bullied in schools, and judged even as adults when they choose to not fit into societal norms.
This page is intended to help educate, fight for visibility, and join in as an active voice to greater LGBT issues, the B needs to fight for equality within and outside the LGBT community.”
Source: bisexual-community
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Made on 10/17/2009 12:12 PM
the newest addition to College QUILTBAG, Hannah, discusses the monosexism she faces within the queer community.
Source: powerpussysays
Reads: “This person supports LGBTQ youth and will speak out against homophobia, transphobia, & bullying.” The “B” in “LGBTQ youth” was later bolded and “Biphobia,” was added. The new photo reads: “This person supports LGBTQ youth and will speak out against homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, & bullying.”
I’m not sure why everyone thinks that somehow “homophobia” takes care of bisexuals, it doesn’t. Leaving biphobia out of things like this is called Bisexual Erasure, it is a form of discrimination and bigotry.
I want to spit nails when I see LGBTQ organizations and the LGBTQ movement say they are for “gay and trans rights,” leaving out bisexuals, and say they fight against “homophobia and transphobia,” leaving out biphobia, and fight against “heterosexim and cissexism,” leaving out monosexism.
Despite the overwhelming data that bisexuals exist, other people’s assumptions often render bisexuals invisible. Two women holding hands are read as “lesbian,” two men as “gay,” and a man
and a woman as “straight.” In reality, any of these people might be bi―perhaps all of them.
Or pansexual.
Or queer.
Or not identifying with any specific orientation.
(via sweetcalamity)
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(via thecuntmentality)
I wanted to add something here about the problematic addition to this equation of cissexism and our assumptions/flawed perceptions of “gender” based on outward appearances but I can’t quite put things in to words at the moment owing to my brain being entirely mush right now. (via deliberatelyobtuse)
(via bisexual-community)
Source: biinthebiblebelt
I've spent ten years being invisible
Listen.
I’m not sure if it’s the fact that I’m in college now, and I’m able to be more open and involved in the LGBT community.
I’m not sure if it’s because a few hateful and ignorant comments in recent months have sent me over the edge.
I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve always felt this way, and I’ve just now gained the courage and words necessary to voice my opinion.
But I have something to say, and you’re all gonna listen.
I am bisexual.
I have always been bisexual, and, as current evidence suggests, I will always be bisexual.
I stopped thinking guys had cooties in about third grade, when I was nine years old.
I remember falling for a boy who attended my church [and still does], and trying to find a way to make him love me.
I also really, really adored my third grade teacher. I had no idea what I was feeling at the time because it seemed like the same kind of attraction I had for the boy at my church, but that was impossible, because I couldn’t be straight and gay at the same time, right?
I remember asking my mom if I was gay for really caring about a girl, and she said no. I was relieved, for awhile, at least.
Over the years, I had more attractions, both for guys and for girls, although I didn’t realize my connections with the girls were crushes at the time.
Then middle school happened, I started wearing all black and hanging out with the “mall rats” at the local mall arcade, and I started hearing the term “bisexual” floating around.
At that point in time, among that crowd, everyone claimed to be bi. It was the “cool” thing, I guess; it was a way for kids who wanted to revolt against society to revolt even further. I played around with the label a bit, but it was for the wrong reasons, so I didn’t feel like it fit me. Then again, I didn’t feel “straight,” either. I knew deep down, at the time, I belonged to the Q in LGBTQ, but admitting out loud that I was questioning seemed so impossible. I’d seen kids who weren’t straight get blacklisted and ridiculed at my school, and it wasn’t going to happen to me.
That summer I experienced my first intense infatuation with a guy. That confirmed that I was, indeed, attracted to men… and yet, not even two months after that, I fell for a girl. This was the first time that I knew, without a doubt, I was attracted to someone of the same gender as myself. I was terrified to come out, but I knew I was bisexual.
The summer after that year, I attended a camp for high school students that covered different types of oppression, specifically classism, racism, sexism, and heterosexism. That camp was completely life-altering, and it gave me the courage to come out. I was fourteen and about to enter my freshman year of high school. Compared to most of the LGBTQ persons I know, that’s an extremely early age to come out, but I knew it was the right decision for me.
Since then, I have gone through periods of time where all of my crushes happened to be female or male. I have also been attracted to a few transgendered individuals, and there have been times where I haven’t felt any desire, emotionally or sexually, to pursue anyone at all. So yes, I have questioned my sexual orientation multiple times since I’ve come out… but then I’ll develop feelings for another person, and it will confirm that I am, in fact, attracted to women and men. Always.
So why is it that I listened to my aunt, who is an “ally” (and, coincidentally, knows nothing of my orientation), blatantly state that there is “no such thing as bisexuality?”
Why am I referred to by some of my friends as gay, and when I correct them, they act as if terminology means nothing?
Why have my friends and family told me that I will eventually come out as completely gay?
Why have I heard gays and lesbians say “I’ll never date a bisexual?”
Why do people assume I’ll cheat on them with someone of the opposite gender?
Why do people assume I’ll find it acceptable to have a partner of each gender?
Why do people think I’m doing this for attention?
Listen.
I spent a good part of my adolescence confused as fuck, not even knowing what I was or what my feelings meant.
When I had my first experience with a girl, I felt like I was doing something wrong by being this way, by being attracted to both genders. I cut myself, burned myself, and tried to make myself throw up that night because I felt as if I needed to be punished in some way for my actions and the fact that I couldn’t “pick sides.”
And I’ve tried to pick sides.Don’t you think, if I could choose, I’d be either gay or straight, so at least I’d be left alone by ONE community?
I felt that way at one point in time, yes. I felt like it’d be easier to be straight. Hell, I even felt like it might be easier to be a lesbian.
But you know what?
I am bisexual.
I have always been bisexual.
I will always be bisexual.
And, despite what people have said and done to bring me down, I’m fucking proud.
Preach It! *clap* *clap* *clap*
Source: barefootsoul
Don't You Dare.
If I identify as bisexual this is what people may perceive me to be or do:
- I am now a raging slut
- I am going to cheat on my partner
- I will end up “picking a side” (because I have to be either a lesbian or straight)
- My sexuality may be deemed as illegitimate
When in reality identifying as bisexual means that I am attracted to both genders, not any of the above.
So I identify as queer, because I really shouldn’t have to experience hate within my own community. Don’t we get enough hate from the outside as it is?
or you could remain true to yourself and help fight the false stereotypes for yourself and everyone else *looks hopeful*
Yeah, do not change yourself because of the ignorance of some members of LGTBQ.
Source: metaphoricheart
This needs to stop: “Real” bisexual vs. “Fake” bisexual nonsense
Why do some people feel that it is their right to pick out who is a “real” bisexual and who is giving the bisexual community a bad name?
I am tired of this whole “Real” bisexual vs. “Fake” bisexual nonsense. If a person identifies as bi, is it truly that difficult to believe them? Must you scrutinize and pick apart their identity until you finally find some sort of flaw to hold against them?
I especially become frustrated when this comes from people who do not identify as bisexual, but still feel it is their right to define what a “real” bisexual is. Sometimes they think they’re being heroic and helpful by putting down the “fake” bisexuals.
Let me be frank with you: if you do not identify as bisexual, it is absolutely not your place to dictate what “true” bisexuality is. You are not being helpful. You are not standing up for the “real” bisexuals. You are actually being prejudiced against the very people you are claiming to help.
YES.
This real vs. fake dichotomy is hurting us all, because it makes bisexuality something that can be questioned. I know we all get the “you’re really just straight/gay/looking for attention” bs.
If you are bi and sick of having your sexuality questioned, dismissed, doubted and picked apart, don’t blame other bi people who are dismissed as “fake”. Blame the people doing this to us.
Fake bisexuals are a myth, like unicorns. Also sexuality is fluid so idgaf what anyone says
The problem is not so much people such as yourself. It is that in all our dealings, we all must always be thinking not of those who can weather any storm without even messing up their hairdo but the people who are in a less advantageous position.
With the teasing and even outright bullying so many bisexual people already endure from the straight community, the mainline lesbian/gay community and now even the “anything but bisexual” wing of the non-monosexual community nobody needs this added headache too. Besides which in 99.999% of the cases, those people Are Bisexual and a lot of the “fake bisexuals” nonsense comes down to the usual issues of caste, class, social group and even sadly race/religion. Most of the people (really it’s girls/young women not boys this happens to in most cases) who are called “fake” are also usually called a variety of other names too, like trashy, low-class, sluts, ghetto, etc.
Source: multifuriosity
